Update July 2013: Please note a few days back, I found the girl and I gave her some peaches. Recently, I noticed that there are now (lovely and kind) homeless folk who are around Hartman’s and no one has asked them to leave. I am back to being a customer of theirs. Maybe they just had a shit employee?!
I just went to Hartman’s and in front of the entrance was a little girl completely and totally strung out. She was sitting on the ground, arms wrapped around herself rocking quietly back and forth with a little cup in front of her for any change anyone had to give. The cup was empty.
When people weren’t ignoring her, they were cutting her with their gross gross gross eyes.
She. Is. A. Kid.
Please remember what I have said in the past and what I will repeat until I am dead and buried — no one wants to be on the street. No one dreams of being on the street. No one goes to sleep in a safe bed with their parents safely tucked away in the same house and ends up on the streets. Those who do have a history of abuse; very often sexual, always and definitely physical. Where there is no abuse, there is often mental illness. The street is their safety. The street, with its brutality and coldness and danger, remains safer than their homes. Please get that through your thick heads once and for fucking all you assholes who look down on those whose only safety net is the street.
Remember that next you are safely tucked at church, synagogue, masjid, temple, whatever. Remember it before you remember anything else. Remember that He asked you to care for others, not to ignore them. Not to deny them. Shun them. Look down on them. Definitely not to have them removed so that you are made more comfortable.
And again, I will say: She. Is. A. Kid.
I walked over to her and crouched down to speak. I asked her if I could buy her some food. She could barely lift her head, so I said hi again and asked her again if I could buy her some food. When she finally looked up, it seemed like she was trying to shake a ton off of her head to respond ‘no’.
In place of food, I asked if she wanted a coffee. She answered this by telling me she was an alcoholic. I told her I wouldn’t buy her alcohol but I would buy her food. “Can I buy you something to eat? Is there anything you want to eat?”
“A salad.”
I — literally, not figuratively — ran into the store, I grabbed for her a regular salad, a fruit salad, and a chocolate milk; for me, olives and my yogurt. I paid up and was back outside in less than 10 minutes to find that she had vanished. There were folks standing around who had been there while I was speaking with her and they told me that she was asked to leave by someone from the store.
I walked up and down Bank Street like a mad woman carrying her food in a little bag that I intended to leave with her; I couldn’t find her. I couldn’t see her on any of the side streets and I was getting angrier by the second. I couldn’t find her. I have no idea where she’s gone and all I have is this stupid entry to let people know that this is your “neighbourhood” grocery store. This is who they are. This is what you need to remember the next time you give money to this store.
I came home and fought back a cry of of sheer anger and frustration. I stuck the stupid chocolate milk in my fridge because it’s not for me and looking at it just turns my stomach.
Fuck you, Hartman’s, and fuck any of your customers who were set ill at ease by this little girl. You deserve one another; you just lost me as a customer.
You DID and are DOING the right thing!
BRAVO!!
I worked there in the 80s – one day a homeless (and likely unmedicated) lady came in. I was waiting on a price check and she was my next customer in line. She was impatient and likely hungry and tired of waiting, she ripped open one of her 2 packages of chicken livers and started shoving them in her mouth and eating them raw. The customer I was serving took one look at what was going on and abandoned her large grocery order – running out of the store in a hurry. My manager started out from his “crow’s nest” – took one look at what was going on at my cash and turned around and returned to his little office of power. I made an executive decision and told the lady that the chicken was on the house, a freebie. (I later got in trouble for doing that, I suppose they expected me to collect payment) Let’s just say that Hartman’s has a long history of poor management.
They just lost me too.
Thank you for being you and I am sorry this happened and you could not find her.
i bounced them a lil email – and in case others should feel so obliged: pr@loblaws.ca
🙂
Eiman — you are excellent. Several folks have visited the site from Loblaw Companies Inc and I was wondering how they found out about the post so quickly.
Thank you!
Roz — thanks for sharing your story. Companies shouldn’t be on locations like Bank Street and pretend they are in fucking Kanata with the MiniVan Majority.
Thank you Sari + Marsha, also.
I have been receiving some interesting messages from people — Hartman’s treatment of customers is as shit as one would expect. They are done and done for me and anyone everyone I know, all of whom reside in the area. This is good enough for me.
xxo m
I love you MAMA!
I will boycott Loblaws and their affiliates!! -lily
You, my lady, are a true Superhero. And I say that in all seriousness because my spawn is currently in a superhero kick what with The Avengers everywhere and she (yes, she) loves all things heroish. So tomorrow morning, while we have our donuts (cause today was national donut day) in the safety of our comfortable home I will read this to her. And I am not going to edit it because she knows that bad things happen to people and I know she would want to know there are superheroes who are out there looking out for them. Mucho loves
Mana, thanks for trying to do a good thing, also, believe that everything happens for a reason. Maybe in that day, the person just needed to know that someone would do something for them, even though the deed was not completed it was the act that mattered. Not saying they would not have wanted or eaten the salad, just that for some cosmic reason your effort was enough at that moment. We never know what impact our actions have on others . xoxo to you for trying.
Love you back, Lils!
Queen — I am just a loser who couldn’t pack her Hartman’s / Loblaws shit up in under 3 minutes, but thank you for your sweet words.
How were the donuts with your seed? Did you read this to her? Did she dig? (I am thinking of legally changing my name to “Superhero Zimmo” — thoughts?
CVC — When I originally read your comment, it brought tears to my eyes…did again tonight. Thank you for softening this edge, very very much.
Love to all,
m
And then that girl grew up to be Hitler
UPDATE: A few days back, I found the girl and I gave her some peaches. Recently, I noticed that there are now (lovely and kind) homeless folk who are around Hartman’s and no one has asked them to leave. I am back to being a customer of theirs. Maybe they just had a shit employee?!