At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman asks how to deal with harassment in her new place of work: “You need to be okay with your own terminology: You are being “defensive” because you have been attacked by them. You are being “prudish” because you have been sexualized without consent. Are you going to “complain and cause trouble”? I hope to God, yes, because “violated” is not a word that any of us should ever be forced to use at any time; most definitely, it is not a word which we should use when discussing our professional environment.”

Please note that I took Monday April 21st off from advice columning; see you on the 28th when I’ll have two new shiny columns up for your enjoyment.