To those of you who have dropped ‘thank you’ from your vocabulary, you are best to pay attention.
We don’t have to hold the door open for you, or the elevator, or let you move ahead even though you budded. We don’t invite you to a party or to a coffee or into our lives because we owe it to you.
..our courtesy is not a duty, but rather a means of politeness we choose to exercise.
The fk is wrong with you that you don’t know this?
At the sake of Clarica-ing: When someone sends you an invitation to any kind of a gathering and you know this person (not to be confused with a random Facebook creep with whom you never have contact), RSVP with a thank you note you rude and entitled sad-sack. Don’t ignore the invitation or pretend it doesn’t exist. Don’t “No” to the invitation without behaving like a proper human being. (Oh the drama of being polite! So. Much. Work. For such a lazy grouping.)
Thing is, someone has extended the courtesy of their home to your sad-sack self. So RSVP, with a thank you note, already. It takes a moment and it says two things: (1) You appreciate the fact that people still bother inviting you into their homes; and, (2) You have good manners. Because you know what, sad-sack? Very soon, you’ll stop receiving invitations. (If you haven’t already.)
People. For all of your ability to kind, you can be really fkn ignorant sometimes.
Growing up this was not an option for me and my family. God help you if you were not polite. it is v v sad that politeness has been dropped from society to such a large degree. That’s progress? But then again, I am sometimes just a forgetful idiot…
Ess! We have a PHO.TO! So exciting.
Now — let me read what you wrote.
Yes. It’s part of our “progress,” perhaps. It may be the “Yes” “No” “Maybe” grouping (not a specific generation, mind you, since the rudeness crosses all age gaps). It’s astonishing to me how people behave. They’re losers. Plain and simple.
In this, I have no problem passing judgement.
xx
Maha.. I just clicked on your response to the “friendships taken for.. not enough”. It took me a minute to realize this was an old post and that Dee just commented on it and you responded. i read what was there and my own comments and it felt very true today as it did then.
Combining with your current post, I would just say life sucks when you are “a giver” in a world of takers or worse, a world of takers who have no capacity to comprehend the value of what they take.. they just like hording stuff and they dump the expensive with the garbage in their garage. ..
but then again, i remember that life does have some people like you and the gang in this blog and you realize it does not suck all the time.. If i find a better alternative.. i will let you knwo 🙂
Hi BB! Long time no comment — I was wondering to where you had vanished.
HIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MISS YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m sorry you’re still feeling this same thing. More often than not, people really are for complete sh.t.
Dee was nice enough to email and we had a quick discussion on friendship; ultimately, for every 999 dumbasses encountered, there is 1 worth the difficulty of sorting through friendships. I think the trick is to keep ourselves open to new friendships, knowing fully well most of them will be with sad-sacks…so that we at least never miss out on that one gem. That means that we’ll get hurt — but the great thing about hurt is that once it’s gone, none of us can ever remember what it actually *felt* like 🙂
And…we’re going to always get hurt one way or another, and so protecting ourselves by disengaging isn’t worth the trade off of maybe missing that one gem.
The sad-sacks fade, anyway, and the warmth of the ones remaining always stands.
I should write an entry about this…it has generated enough discussion to warrant it.
Love you. See you soon, inshallah xxo
Ah, I mourn the loss of good manners. And I think it’s sad that when we encounter someone with good manners, we seem surprised by it.
Oh Westy…I couldn’t have said it better myself.
Other day, my best friend in the whole wide world and I were speaking. Someone had done something NORMAL and we were so fkn pleased by it (complete NERDS, our reaction) it was a little sick. Honestly.
“not a specific generation, mind you, since the rudeness crosses all age gaps” – v v true! Today’s youth learned it from yesterday’s youth, today’s adults.
They also learn the right way. Today a young boy ran ahead of me to open the door for me!! For no reason. I didn’t know him. I wanted to go hug his parents.
Hug his parents? I want to date him.
KID!! CALL ME!! In 7-9 years.
My life is so fkn sad, yeah.