Last post, I promised to write something less toxic, so this is it – I have been thinking about both the personal characteristics and the characteristics of friendship itself, required to…

Preamble: I am using the feminine only for ease of writing. Do not misunderstand this to mean that men cannot be mean-girls. Being a little shit is not specific to…

For those who have lived here long enough, you remember him from the original post of 2008, because – oddly – I receive references about ‘the stand-up guy’ regularly from…

What is that saying about knowing who our friends are in bad times? I’m not so sure about that, anymore. Or, at least, I believe there is a footnote to…

Editorial Note: Originally published on 2012/02/17. ——————– Colin receives all of the accolades. Last week, I was on course for work. When introducing ourselves, we were asked to name our…

Dear Ms Know it all, I have a very dear girlfriend of 13 years. She is my soul sister and I adore her. Unfortunately, for the past three years, she…

Greetings from California! I had hoped to engage limited internet activity, but turns out that’s impossible for your WebMistress, and so here I am seated with a cappuccino and my…

depletion noun [mass noun] reduction in the number or quantity of something. First, let me start with what happens to me physically. Yesterday, I started feeling that the left side…

Since moving into The Cloud Cave, I hear neither the sound of wind through trees nor birds calling to one another, beauty by which I was surrounded both at my…

Once upon a time, there was a group of friends. Amidst these individuals was a girl whom we shall call “Maha.” On a sunny Saturday morning, Maha left for a…

Very often, women are pitted against one another, so many represented as not being “a girl’s girl.” You know these women, we all know at least one woman around whom…

I hold myself to an extreme standard of behaviour, and although I do my best to soften this where others are concerned (because who in the sh/t am I to…

Sometimes, I would really like to say: “I un-friended you because your ego-driven behaviour is so very unfriendly. I un-friended you because 9 out of 10 times, I believe you’re…

It’s the only guaranteed fact of life. I have just learned that a woman with whom I went to high school has passed away due to cancer. We were acquaintances,…

Due to certain circumstance, I have – in the last perhaps month – been having bouts of complete and total rage. Wicked anger the likes of which I have never…

I’ve always believed that the reason Paradise is at the feet of mothers is because when they are gone, they take with them 99% of the love felt by their…

Headed for the Great Adventure is one of the warmest, gentlest and kindest women to ever let me into her home. She is responsible for bringing together myself and her…

It was the first morning that Dianna and I awoke in Scotland. Since we were to travel overnight, we’d not made any plans for that first day, instead getting to…

Several years back, Alisa & Ryan were married at Lake Placid. Baby Jane and I stayed at the Trail Head’s Inn in the Bigelow Room, then owned and run by a young couple…

I was at a stop light watching a child who couldn’t have been older than four years old. She was holding on to her father’s hand and hanging, legs and…

 I have been working on developing my World View (WV) and doing my best to make it coherent both in my head and to those I love, and naturally, to…

Recently, Dee (a reader) was generous enough to share her experience with me, asking how I know. How do I know when someone will be a good friend? How do I know to…

As hard as I tried, I never saw beyond the squiggles of an austereogram and for a while was convinced — like a die-hard conspiracy theorist — that no one…

“So I ate a fish eye. I have been out of the dating loop for so long that I thought doing that might get his attention. It didn’t work.” Comments…

Ali and I just met. Technically, I stalked his exquisite photographic skills while still on the Face, when he tagged my girl Yasminah. Flipping through his photos gives the impression…

Exceptional first night in NYC; evening started out with an in-depth literature and film discussion with Laurie. (Who is, quite possibly, one of the prettiest women on whom I have…

Dear Readers, I frequent too many a café while traveling. Once more, I write to you from a coffee shop, only this time I am in Paris on a street…

I am seated at Nude Espresso in the Brick Lane market; the weather in London Town has been crisp, bright and without rain. Having spent my early childhood summers in…

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Stupidity is missing your stop on an express bus with huge distances between stops.” On Blackberry Messenger two nights back I received…

Note: Thanks to you all for the emails. Sorry I have not written back – I haven’t had much energy. I have been in a funk of late and have…

We talk about it regularly, with relationships, but not enough in terms of friendships. Unusual this, as more often than not, relationships tend to be fleeting whereas one hopes that…

  That’s the mac light which Baby Jane brought as a gift for my Treehouse. It now sits in my bedroom window and I have decided that I shall use…

I just sent my friend Yusuf the following bit of advice: Just remember that making a new potential partner pay for someone else’s asshatery hurts both you and the new one. …

Note: The below was written on March 20th, while I was in London. My writing will slow for the next while as I will be up in the air (sadly,…

Leaving for Rome & London tomorrow and I promise stories while there; thank you for the well wishes re travels…xox Video no1 – Kitty took this while we were on…

Blogging on the fly; pardon all shit error and spelling. Jumped off my flight and landed at Elixir for dinner, with these two gorgeous broads. Not surprisingly, we were asked…

This is the final entry about this just last trip to Austin. I have written about Lisa before – a wonder of a woman who, from the moment we met,…

I love you very much and am proud of you beyond words or measure. I have printed Bordering on Fear: A Comparative Literary Study of Horror Fiction, your 399 page…

So. Naomi and I have known one another since university – she was completing her undergraduate and I my M.A. and we both lived at the graduate pub on campus…

Apparently, the wiggling index fingers by the temples is not the Longhorns secret handshake. I won’t share with you what the actual secret handshake is because it is unimaginative and…