At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman gets shamed and mistreated for telling a man she cares about him. I think he is a knob-head who reacted disproportionately, and then gave…

At Chai Latte Diaries, I am asked to explain what is ‘gaslighting’, one of the more insidious forms of emotional violence: The effects on the gaslightee are: – To doubt…

At Chai Latte Diaries, a man belittles a woman for a reality entirely out of her hands, and she is beginning to internalize the gender-specific nonsense with which women must…

At Chai Latte Diaries, a man kind of likes a girl. But maybe he’s not sure. Also, he might not be ready. Maybe. What should he do? If she is…

  And I responded with a variation of the following. Because I talk too much. ‘Ramadan’ is the name of the month (like October or November) and the Muslim calendar,…

At Chai Latte Diaries, a lovely woman who has been waiting to hear from a man for two months asks ‘What do I do now?’: [If you are currently too…

Three foundational notes: (1) Yes. We get that sometimes we all falter and we lose perspective and we are hurt and confused by a wo/man’s behaviour because we like them…

At Chai Latte Diaries, I am asked for advice on an unwelcome and insecure-male-driven ‘love triangle’ as well as how to react to when our good intentions are maligned: This…

At Chai Latte Diaries, I am asked how to re-engage trust after our trust has had its bottom handed to it, by no fault of our own (or, as always,…

“Economics is the social science that studies production, distribution, exchange and consumption of goods and services, and the […] choices concerning the allocation of scarce means and resources.” “Don’t make…

At Chai Latte Diaries, I’m asked about sexual and household obligations inside of marriage: (1) Islamically speaking, sex as mutual pleasure is (without coercion) an obligation for you and your…

At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman depleted asks how to take a break from the dating scene, and mentions something about how the grass is greener: You jump off the…

The Maha Monday series is now officially a video & column response, with this the first one. It’s grainy and has terrible lighting and I may have made up the…

A part of tomorrow’s MahaMonday column touches lightly on the subject of when we should cut a platonic or romantic relationship out of our lives. With my own Shut-Off Valve…

At Chai Latte Diaries, he tells us that she’s told him she doesn’t love him anymore. Now what? As to what can be done now, in your present situation: the…

There are a few rumors running around this budding emotional entanglement. What then? Here, I advise you to keep things simple and clean. I very strongly encourage you to ask…

At Chai Latte Diaries, she’s asking how to get past first date awkwardness: The most important response to your Qs however, is that you are not a fisherwoman and men…

Dear Humans: STOP THIS PRACTICE. It’s gross. At Chai Latte Diaries, a dude whose meh about commitment has instead chosen to ghost on women. Repeatedly. He’s now looking to change…

At Chai Latte Diaries, a mansplainer tries to mansplain a woman’s safety away; I get into the perameters of safe online (and offline) dating scenarios: Always, the first three rules…

At Chai Latte Diaries, I am asked how to deal with the recent hate-driven executions of Yusor Mohammad, Deah Shaddy Barakat, Razan Mohammad Abu-Salha, and Mustafa Mattan: The answers to…

Because  mommas be crazy, this is a reminder of how we – their seeds – need to respond: I have been there. Often. I don’t know one daughter who has…

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the epoch of stupidity, it was the epoch of my…

At Chai Latte Diaries, I’m asked how to answer the world’s most boring and predictable answer (which is handed out to all biological and non-biological aunties at the annual Global…

A gentleman at Chai Latte Diaries asks me how to address the challenges of marriage while he cares for his elderly parents who live with him: From a Muslim angle,…

(TRIGGER WARNING.) At Chai Latte Diaries, an incredible woman reaches out to ask about the end of her marriage to an abusive man, how to deal with her family who…

He asked how to get rid of writer’s block. In answering, I told him that his bigger problem is his contempt for the success of others; also, that he, like…

At Chai Latte Diaries, a fella wants to stick his nose where the sun don’t shine, where he has no business to stick his nose. ¿Por qué? Because he has…

At Chai Latte Diaries, I was asked how one might handle extended family who is frumpy frumping about a female member’s divorce and her life-choices. I frown all over my…

At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman asks me what she should ask him, he who is engaging her for reasons of marriage. A simple Q, in response to which I…

At Chai Latte Diaries, Bro A spends a couple of minutes having a conversation with a woman online on a dating site.

At Chai Latte Diaries, a man’s wife tells him she does not love him anymore. As to what can be done now, in your present situation: the good news is…

At Chai Latte Diaries I’m asked about the heartbreak of broken friendship. I can also tell you that if you wish to be a healthy adult who does build and…

At Chai Latte Diaries, a currently sad (surely beautiful and amazing) little monkey has asked a man out and met with silence. What now?: …your way forward is clear –…

For the past while, I have been fixated on the deaths of Tamir Rice, Mike Brown and Eric Garner. Every moment I have a second to think past work or…

Boy likes girl. Boy doesn’t make move. Girl moves on. Boy suddenly wants to rush girl. In a nutshell, at Chai Latte Diaries: “Cold hard truth is that I am…

I have suddenly fallen in love with green nature. Swear to God this must be because I am now living in a box in the sky. I was born in…

Editorial Note: Make sure you find the on-purpose mistake I made in my response.  A lovely reader at Chai Latte Diaries asks whether it’s alright to cut men out of…

At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman in a new city is trying to make new friends. Only, many people are mean-girls: For you and the people you mention, simply understand…

At Chai Latte Diaries, I respond to a woman worried about body image and settling for the wrong man: On settling – this too is a valid fear, which I…

A couple of months ago a dear girlfriend was talking to me about a weird crush that she had on a man – weird because she knew it would never…