The saying “Paradise is at the feet of mothers” is rooted in the following:
A man asked the Prophet Mohammed whether he should fight in a war. To this, the Prophet asked if the man’s mother was still alive. When the man answered that she was indeed still alive, the Prophet responded with “(Then) stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet.”
I have just come home from saying goodbye to my mother. She’ll be in the Gaza Strip for the next month, and I already miss her so much it’s almost unbearable.
There’s no person on this earth who could provide me the sort of calm, kindness, shelter and warmth that my mother can. I hate that I won’t be able to crawl into bed with her when I’m too tired to fall asleep alone…
She is the only one who knows my darkest secrets and thoughts, the only one I fear to disappoint, the only one I would kill to protect. She’s also the only one who has never ridiculed even the most ridiculous of my feelings…and she’s never once not forgiven me for the most unforgivable actions.
There have been fights, yelling matches, angry words, threats and all of the usual suspects that make up a relationship of 31 years. But. Everything I am is because of her and the mere thought of losing her, breaks me.
I don’t want this to be a sad blog entry, and so I will share a funny scenario which occurred as I was driving her to her destination earlier this day. She recently acquired a global mobile phone (for safety while she is crossing the Rafah border into Gaza) that she’s still learning how to use.
She sat in the car and explained how she was having trouble accessing her voicemail. I asked her to walk me through the steps she followed in order to retrieve her messages. When the “voicemail lady” asked her for her P.I.N. number, my mother started chattering into the phone. For a moment, I had no idea what she was doing, until I realised that she was under the misimpression that she had to say her P.I.N. number aloud, rather than actually key it into the mobile. I was laughing so hard I nearly crashed my car.
She’s an incredible woman. Not to mention an absolutely (& sickeningly so) stunning woman. This photo was taken when she was my age (her eyes are a very unique shade of pale green that I have yet to see on anyone else):
…they took this photo of me on the same day:
Read here if you’re interested in learning more about (specifically) mothers in Islam…
Thanks to my Fiery M for the inspiration.
(Originally published: 06/01/06)
My mom has been gone 7 1/2 years- taken too soon from this earth, my life and the life of my children. Not a day goes by that I don’t wish there was a special voicemail to Heaven, so I could leave her a message and tell her how much I miss her or share an event of the day with her about her grandchildren or lean on her for unconditional love, affection and support. She was my bff and I lost a huge piece of myself when she passed. Like a ball of energy, I have absorbed the adoration she bestowed on my children, and I wrap them in at times from her. At moments when I want to scream at my children, I gather her strength and I let it pass on her behalf. I advice anyone who still has their mother in their lives to pick up the phone and tell them today what they mean to them and embrace them as often as you can. Time is fleeting, but our memories are not.
4 Comments:
Anonymous said…
It’s a family of goddesses, then.
Your entry breaks my heart in a good way. That’s exactly how I feel about my Mum.
*hugs*
Espy
Sun Jan 08, 10:55:00 PM
just a girl said…
Thanks Espy – she really is a beauty, isn’t she? I wish I had her heart, too…
It’s terrible to think that some people don’t have this sort of connection to their mums; I can’t imagine living without it.
I bet your mom’s an angel, too 🙂
*hugs*
m
Mon Jan 09, 10:21:00 AM
♥ m said…
I remember this photo from sometime back, but it’s still breathtaking.
What it must be like to have such good genes! lol
*hugs to you while mama is away!*
♥ m
Mon Jan 09, 08:28:00 PM
just a girl said…
Thanks sweetie — and speaking of good genes…as I recall (and forget about your own beauty!!), your mom is absolutely stunning!!!!!
*hugs right back at ‘ya!*
m
Wed Jan 11, 09:03:00 AM
I must now go hugsies my mum.
Lovely piece Maha!
I was raised by my mother and grandmother. Sadly, both are gone, but they loved God, so I know I will see them again.
May you keep your mother for a very long time.
Lainie — thank you for sharing. I had to read your comment a couple of times because my eyes were all filled up with tears. You are so special. Sending you much warmth xx
ESS! Hugsies her for all of us, please. xxxx
Kent — Thank you for your kind words. I am sorry that you too have lost your mum. Like Lainie…it all seems like you’re just too young. But, like you said: you will see them both again.
love to all,
m